[This review was written in 2015.]

While in Turkey last summer, I heard of a book called Sex and the Citadel: Intimate Life in a Changing Arab World. Shereen El Feki, the author, is a Canadian of Egyptian-Welsh ancestry. Prior to writing the book, she asked both women and men in Cairo – as well as other parts of the Arab world – to tell her about their sex lives. 

The answers were surprising, enlightening and fascinating. The reader feels like they are eavesdropping on a secret conversation that answers questions they’ve wanted to ask, but didn’t know who to ask. This approach works, both for the intimate atmosphere it creates and because of the private subject matter.

Sex and the Citadel explores every category of sex – whether it’s sex in marriage, outside of marriage or in unofficial marriages (where a man and woman sign a temporary contract for a few hours, or years, in order to have sex in an “Islamically sound” way). It also covers gender – transgender, transsexual and cross-dressing – and women’s rights and equality issues in the region. 

El Feki includes many interesting quotes from her interviewees, like this one from the host of Motalakat Radio ((Divorced Women’s Radio) in Cairo, in which she refers to her listeners: 

El Feki says that the phenomenon of women cross-dressing in the Arab world isn’t new. Such women were prevalent in ninth century Baghdad and they were called ghulamiyyat. These females dressed like men but wore make up, plucked their eyebrows, painted their lips and drew on moustaches.

Sex and the Citadel is an engrossing, surprising and compelling read with enough facts and figures to back up the personal stories. This book will long hold a spot on my bookshelf.

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